“Every new beginning comes from some other beginnings end”.
Endings have a bad reputation. What often comes to mind when people hear of an ending is the furthest or final part of something. When something comes to an end, the feelings most associated are sadness or feeling like it’s an end all be all situation. It’s hard to see the bigger picture when you’re only focusing on one side of the situation. I’ve felt that, I’ve seen friends and family experience it and I am sure at least everyone has as well. In the moment, the most difficult thing to comprehend, is that every single ending always leads you to a new beginning of some sort. The chance to start anew is always just around the corner. So maybe something in your life is ending right now and you’re stressing that it is the end of the world, but what if you shifted your perspective and embraced the beauty of the new that was to come?
“Without rain, nothing grows. Learn to embrace the storms in your life”.
Whether we’re talking major storms or a little drizzle, you need to embrace it all to properly cherish the good days. While social media can make it seem like there are people living perfect lives 24/7… I promise you, they’re really not. That’s okay though! Everyone needs a little struggle in life because without the bad days, or a little hiccup in our routine… we would not be able to appreciate the little moments in life, that provide us with our happiest days. How would you even be able to recognize the things that made you happy without knowing what didn’t? While embracing a little struggle, the key to all of this, is to not harbor on the bad days and the disruptions to your flow. I have found it to be extremely beneficial to take the time to acknowledge and dissect the bad moments experienced. Why do you feel the way you do? What improvements could you make to prevent feeling like this for the future? What steps can you take to change your situation right now? These are all questions that I ask myself when faced with a problem because it allows me to talk the problem out with myself and often times, not repeat the situation. So while the storms are just a part of life, just know that they will eventually pass and they’re crucial to everyones journey in growth.
“If you can’t fly then run, if you can’t run then walk, if you can’t walk then crawl, but whatever you do you have to keep moving forward.” – Martin Luther King Jr.
Today we honor and celebrate Martin Luther King Jr., so it only seemed appropriate to pull a quote from his archives. As one of history’s greatest influencers, this quote from 1960, that King spoke of at the Spelman college rally is still relevant. I honestly love this quote because it is what I personally stand for in my day to day life; to keep moving forward.
The consistent component of life is that it is so unpredictable. Unforeseen circumstances are inevitable, but rather than to be thrown off course by something that you cannot control, find a way to continue on, at whatever pace you can. With the mindset of continuously pushing yourself forward, despite any hardships that you may encounter, you will eventually realize that you are able to do anything you set your mind to and consistently work towards. The other factors simply won’t matter with the right motivated mindset.
“Take the risk, don’t let the unknown stop you from progressing”.
Staying in your comfort zone is…comfortable. Sure, it’s easy, but also the number one thing that will prevent you from progressing in life. Everyone has the same 24 hours in a day. The same opportunities to take a vision and to make it a reality. While not everyone has the same exact tools to do so, we all have it in us to become whatever we want for ourselves. And that’s going to be different for everyone. We wouldn’t have dreams of doing things or becoming certain versions of ourselves, if it weren’t possible. While it’s an easy route to go with the flow and to continue on a safe path, I’ve found that it’s the most worthwhile to take a dream and step out of your comfort zone in order to get yourself closer to that. It’s certainly not easy, and can even be a bit scary, but rather than wondering what could have been, wouldn’t you want to at least try to get closer to your highest potential? So, my advice to you this week is to do something to get yourself out of your comfort zone, however big or small, in any aspect of your life. You owe it to yourself to at least try.
In life we go through so many identities and phases until we are able to truly discover who we were meant to be all along. Some people may take longer than others to figure that out and experience different lessons to get there but ultimately, it will lead you to where you’re meant to be. The process of learning who your true self is, is an essential part of everyone’s life. This is literally what separates every individual on earth; by having their own unique story. When going through this life journey it’s important to know when to let go of an outgrown phase and to accept the next chapter. Usually when this time to transition is taking place, it can feel uncomfortable and like your whole world is in mayhem, but that’s also another sign that you’re ready to grow. When you genuinely show that you’re ready for that next phase and put your faith and confidence into getting there you’ll slowly start to see it all fall into place ✨
Happiness is a state of mind that only you can control for yourself. So many people think that once you have the money, that dream job, the house, the relationship, the car..etc. That the ultimate “happiness phase” that you have been waiting for will just fall into place. As each of those things can bring you happiness in the moment, it’s not happiness that will continue to last. Happiness cannot be obtained by disposable objects. It’s just unrealistic because anything that can be taken away from you shouldn’t dictate how you’re feeling internally and on a daily basis.
You should be able to be whole within yourself and anything added to your life is just a bonus. Every day you’re the only person sitting with yourself and your mental and it’s ultimately up to you to make choices to set yourself up to be happy. Whether it be waking up every morning in time to see the sunrise or to get in a workout, using your favorite coffee cup, walking a specific route to smile at a neighbor daily, taking the time to do your favorite skincare routine, wearing a favorite piece of jewelry, or just adding in anything to your routine that is a given to make you happy. This is something that is certainly different for everyone. I started to do this regularly and it honestly makes the world of a difference in my day to day life. These little things that we can consistently add to our day to set ourselves up to be happy are so beneficial in a world that is so uncertain.
“Patience is not the ability to wait. Patience is the ability to remain calm no matter what happens, constantly take action to turn it to positive growth opportunities, and have faith to believe that it will all work out in the end while you are waiting”.
Living in NYC, it’s a natural way of life to constantly be rushing. With my mindset constantly on what I’m doing next, I’m always on the go. When faced with any interruption to my plans, it’s an easy reaction to get flustered and annoyed, which as you know, doesn’t end up being beneficial to anyone. Patience is something I’ve had to consciously work on over the years but in retrospect ends up allowing things to work out as they’re meant to. If this year has taught me anything, it’s that there’s no need to rush through life. Take the time to be patient and the right things will come to you at the right time.